One of the things that 'just is,' is that change is sometimes slow and difficult (and sometimes instant and easy too, as in those happy moments when the dawn breaks and everything is suddenly nicer and clearer and we understand some things that we didn't understand before–and now everything seems much easier.) When you ask for acceptance (and it does help to ask for it) don't put a time limit on yourself, don't struggle, don't worry about speed. (If you don't have much time, just give it what you have and that will be enough.) Just stay in the right-now for-the-moment, forget yesterday and who you were then, let go of worrying about tomorrow (it won't do any good anyway), and just be OK with right now, with this minute, today.

Another thing that helps in learning acceptance is taking quiet time to just sit and be in the space of accepting-now-what-is. If you can find a few moments to be by yourself, meditate or pray, sitting or kneeling–and just be in the present, accepting what is in the present without thinking. Mentally make an effort to stay with the very stuff you used to push away and run away from.

Noticing and replacing non-accepting thoughts with other, accepting thoughts works. Make up your own happy mantra; my favorite is 'Surrender.'

Here's another approach: Get active when you're feeling non-accepting. It's hard to hold unpleasant thoughts and feelings when you're busy doing physical stuff, although not all people can be active (an area of 'limitation' one can learn to accept.)

Do something nice for someone: It's hard to think bad thoughts when you're being nice. Think positively: try to find something good about everything and everyone (including yourself). Count your blessings. Thinking good thoughts is an approach which really works when I can't fall asleep. I list every little thing I own, every face that ever smiled my way even for a minute, every raindrop, every ray of sunshine, the shoes on my feet and the spoon I eat with. All are gifts that I have been blessed with (think of life without them!) It helps me to accept my challenges when I take time to remember how blessed I am.